Women Trump Men in the Lying Game

Women love to tout the dishonesty of men.  “Dirty lying dogs,” is one phrase that I have heard numerous times over.  Although women love to heap the blame on a man when they find out that he is a low down, dirty hoe, they need to start taking responsibility for the ways in which they have nurtured such behavior.  The reality of the matter is that we, as women, love to deceive ourselves.  We lie to ourselves about weight, shoe size, men, anything you can imagine.  Most oft, the biggest lies that we tell are not to others, but rather, to ourselves.

Someone once wrote, “Did he send mixed signals, or did you mix up his signals?”  Ladies, be honest with yourselves – how many times have you begun dating a man despite all of the warnings of your friends and your family and the nagging of your own conscience?  And how many times did you end up hurt or did that relationship fail?  The problem is, when a woman likes/loves a man, she makes up excuses for him or ignores the obvious: 

·   “Oh, no – that can’t be another woman’s earring on his couch; it must be his cousin, Tasha’s.  He’s got lots of cousins!”

·    “He told me that once he buys a car, buys a new house, lands that position in the NBA, and buys his mama a condo, he’ll propose.” 

·    “Please girl, he hasn’t called me because he’s too busy.  You know it’s a recession and all.”

“No, it’s not.”

“Your mom’s a whore.” (Blank stare)

Ladies, why do we insist on lying to ourselves?  One of the greatest gifts that God bestowed upon woman is her intuition.  It is stronger than a man’s and almost always accurate.  When you see warning signs, take heed.  Honestly, men are not that clever.  They leave little clues with every move they make.  A man does his dirt in a fashion that is so blatantly obvious, that most times we cannot bring ourselves to accept what is clearly evidenced.  Why would anyone be so careless, we ask ourselves?  The most common lie that a man tells is the lie of omission.  That being said, it is up to us to believe a man when he shows us the man that he is, not the man that he claims to be.

Ladies, we don’t need Steve Harvey or Dr. Phil to tell us what we ought to know; we have a certified bullshit detector innate to all of our beings.  Do not make yourself the victim.  Do not blame a man when he exhibits the character of what his actions have shown him to be.  If you choose to ignore your inner signals and the clues surrounding your relationship, you must accept the outcome.  It is time for us to stop lying to ourselves.  It is time for us to demand what we deserve without acquiescing to the needs of our desires.