Sometimes He's Not Ready, and It's Okay to Move On

Let's keep it real.  Women mature at a much faster rate than men.  It's not a good thing.  It's not a bad thing. It just is.  I am not saying that this is the rule; however, it is the trend.  Still, what I observe, over and over again, are women who are not willing to acquiesce to this reality.  Although your relationship may appear perfect and every one keeps asking when the two of you will wed, sometimes a man is just not ready to settle down, and if you cannot accept that, it is okay to walk away.

There's a saying that goes, "Women marry when they fall in love, men marry when they are ready."  That single sentence holds an alarming degree of truth.  Let's explore the traditional role of men and women in relationships (at this time, all of the feminists may now exit stage left - please reemerge circa paragraph 4).  Traditionally, men are viewed as providers, while women are nurturers.  Whether you consciously ascribe to these gender roles or not, these characteristics have become ingrained in our psyches due to social influences.

"So, Why Don't You Have a Man?"

Men love to ask this question.  It has always confused me.  What do you mean, “Why don’t I have a man?”  If I knew the answer to that, guess what?  I’d probably have a man!  Now of course, sometimes, we women prefer to be single.  It’s always important to have that personal time for self- exploration and independence, but for the most part, humans dig companionship.  We are communal creatures, and that is just the way it is.
 

So the last time a man asked me this question – I asked my girl, why the heck do men always ask that???  It's like going on a job interview and them asking that stupid question, “What is your biggest fault?” [I’ve always hated that question.  Makes me feel like they are trying to “Freud” me out and mess with my mental.]  Anyhoo -  The response she gave made perfect sense: “Because, they want to know why a pretty, smart, successful woman is still single.  They are thinking that you should be ‘wifed up’ by now, and they are trying to figure out your defect.”  Light bulb moment!

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